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When You Wish You Weren't Planted in the Garden of Singleness

There are days when I wish I wasn't planted in the garden of singleness. There are days when being planted here feels like a torturous mistake. But on those days I must remember that the Gardener knows what is best, and the flower does not.

Have you noticed that flower seed packets always come with instructions for proper planting and growth conditions? "This type of flower needs so much sunlight per day, in such and such type of soil, watered only this amount and no more... to result in the best blooms and the healthiest plant."

Christ knows the perfect growing conditions for His flowers. He knows the exact amounts of sunshine, wind and rain needed to grow strong and beautiful plants.

What if flowers constantly fought against the soil they were planted in? Struggling, straining, tugging at their roots, kicking up the dirt around them, desperately trying to get to some other patch of ground? In trying to get to a "better" spot, they would slowly be killing themselves. But if they commit to the little plot they've been planted in, sink their roots down far, and drink up the nourishment of rain and sun, they flourish.

The same is true for us. If we try to transplant ourselves where the grass appears greener, rebelling against the Creator's loving plan, we will not thrive.

Sister, stop trying to yank up your roots. Stop resisting your patch of ground. Surrender to the soil He has you in, and you will bloom.

"Take the very hardest thing in your life - the place of difficulty, outward or inward, and expect God to triumph gloriously in that very spot. Just there He can bring your soul into blossom." (-Lilias Trotter, an unmarried woman)

God knows what will bring your soul into bloom. He knows where you will produce the best blossoms. Trust Him enough to bloom where you're planted. You will be so much happier for it and God will be able to use you as you begin to produce fruit for Him.

Of course, this doesn't mean you must stop desiring marriage or even pursuing it in a godly way. But it means the spirit with which you seek marriage is one of surrender and acceptance of where God has you for the moment. Bloom where He's planted you even as you ask Him to transplant you into a godly marriage.

(written when I had the gift of singleness.)

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Mar 21
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"The Gardener knows what is best, the flower does not." this reminds me so much of "You are the Potter, I am the clay; Mold me and make me after thy will, while I am waiting, yielded and still." The flower must be yielded and still! I love reading these articles so much because it gets my head back in the correct mindset throughout the day. ❤️

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I LOVE that hymn!! Did you know it was written by a single woman? ❤️

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